Avoiding Wedding Day Jitters

How might a couple enjoy the most important day of their lives while avoiding wedding day jitters? How will the individuals remember to say their wedding day vows without forgetting the words that express their promises for a life time of love and devotion? The answers to these questions and many other questions that arise when lovers wish to make their day a pleasant memory are possible to accomplish.

The first thing to do is to evaluate your nerves from an objective point of view. Think of the wedding planner.The individual sees your wedding as a series projects within one large project . The wedding planner must complete all projects that are on a wedding checklist time line. The projects must be performed in order and seamlessly.

Now see yourself yourself gaining control of the butterflies that well up when you think of your wedding day ceremony and wedding vows. See yourself as being able to participate in and enjoy your wedding day ceremony with as few butterflies as possible. That is your objective. It can happen with a plan of action that is deliberately enacted before your wedding day. Though we can't list them all, consider the following projects that will help make your wedding day enjoyable.

• Set up a program that will help you manage your wedding day jitters.
• Set up an exercise program if you don't already have one in place.
• Be prepared for emergencies.
  

After the excitement of your spouse accepting your proposal for marriage, reality sets in. You begin to think of all the preparations that must be done before the wedding day. Hiring a wedding planner helps calm your nerves to a point. But then you want to express verbally how you feel about your new spouse and your promises for a life the two of you anticipate. How will that happen? At this point you may feel the sweat in your hands, and your head feels a little light. You are not the type person who can stand before a group of people and express your love to your future mate.

Not to worry. You can do it! You are not the first person to do so. And there will be thousands and thousands of people who say there wedding vows after you've said your wedding day vows. How did they get the nerves to express themselves in public? We will never know but read on and I will help you gain your composure. Your wedding day jitters will be a memory by the day of wedding ceremony.

Breathing

Breathing is a key element in public speaking. Learning to pace your breathing will allow you to gain control of your nerves. It allows you to think of the words without obvious memorization or stuttering of the words. Experts teach people how to control their breathing. They sometimes label breathing techniques as anxiety and stress reduction exercises.

A useful breathing technique that you may incorporate today includes the deep breathing exercise..

• Slowly inhale deeply. Your chest will inflate as you inhale as much as you can. As you inhale think of a calming mantra such as "feel the earth beneath my feet"
  
• Hold your breath for a few seconds. Up to three or four seconds if possible.
• Slowly release the air through your lips. As the air is leaving your body, think, the rest of the mantra, "and do nothing."
• Breathe normally a few seconds and repeat the process.

The deep breathing exercise calms your nerves or your jitters. It gives you the few seconds needed to regain your composure. This exercise may be used everyday. Actually, get in the habit of deep breathing on a daily basis. Its a good way to calm down for a good nights rest. Most important, you may use this exercise to calm your nerves while waiting to enter the church on your wedding day. Just before saying your vows, take a deep breath and gently let the air out. Then proceed with your vows. You will say them flawlessly because you learned to calm and control your nerves long before the wedding day.

Exercise

Beyond dedicated athletes, few people understand the power of daily exercising. It is one of the most effective ways to cure illnesses and stress. And it has no negative side affects. Not only does exercising make you look more youthful, it also gives you a renewed sense of self confidence.

How does exercising relate to controlling wedding day jitters or nerves? A lot! Exercising is an excellent stress and anxiety cure. It helps people sleep better at night. People tone their muscles. They are more relaxed and they feel much better about themselves. Consequently, a nervous bride or groom would benefit ten-fold by engaging in an exercising program that they can stick with. Walking is an example of an exercise an individual may wish to engage in. It can be as intense or low level as the individual can handle. The residual affects will be evident on the wedding day.

It is not usual for an individual experiencing wedding day jitters to feel a degree of inadequacy.The individual may feel incapable to standing before a group of people for fear of embarrassing themselves. They may feel they will not be able to handle the pressure of standing in front of a group of people, period. And the list goes on.

With exercise, the individual learns he/she is capable of accomplishing tasks they probably thought they could not accomplish. They gain a better self image through the results of their daily exercise program. People compliment them on how much healthier they look without realizing they've set up an exercise program that works for them. The individual's fears and stresses melt away as their pounds also melt away. The benefits of the program helps them in the long run and they are more confident in themselves. Their wedding day jitters will be better managed.

Medication

Unfortunately, some people feel exercise and calming exercising are not enough to help them through the wedding day activities. They may wish to result to medical calming techniques. They may consult their physician for tranquilizers and other anti-anxiety medicines. The side affects of the medicines may make their wedding day a blur. In a sense they may be there in body but will not be able to fully recall events of the day. So if you must seek medication, do it with caution.

The most perfect wedding day is still subject to unexpected events. Those events may be minimized with an emergency kit for the bride and groom. Regardless of how prepared the couple may be, something unexpected is sure to happen. You may manage the unexpected by creating a wedding day emergency kit. Although the list is endless, include in your kit the following...

• asprin
• deodorant
• sewing kit
  
• lint remover
• safety pins
• stain remover
• lotion
• toothbrush and tooth paste
• sanitary napkins
• makeup supplies and mirror
  
• nail polish and emery board
• sanitizer gel
• extra cell phone
• white handkerchief
• hand fan
• 2 bottles of  water
  

Assign the care of the emergency kit to a person that will be near the bride and groom at all times.

Word to the wise... Nothing unexpected could happen that will ruin your wedding day, if you don't want it to. Tell yourself everything is fine. I will enjoy my wedding day.