Whose Cheating

Did you know Eve cheated in the Garden of Eden? Yes, she did. She thought she could get a taste of the apple and not get caught.Then on top of that she lied about what she did. And to make matters worst she had an accomplice. It was Adam. He knew the truth about the apple and that he was not permitted to eat the apple. He did not have the self control to say no and let his no be no. He ate it to to see what it tasted like. Eve prompted him to eat the Apple but he had a choice. He could have said no to the whole thing and walked away. But he was weak and took a bite of it anyway. We know what happened from that point forward. They both lost paradise. They were banned from the most beautiful, most comfortable and safest place on Earth. That was Eden. Now if you look closely at this scenario, you will see it continues to be played out every day in our world. Whose losing their access to Eden on a regular bases? Men cheating and women cheating  and they are losing the relationships of their lives everyday. They jeopardize their relationships and often lose for a number of reasons. Jeopardizing the relationship may be looked at as cheating. Cheating tells on itself in many ways.

Why men and women cheat in relationships has many theories. Seldom is it about the other person. It has nothing to do with the other person in the relationship. But the first one to be hurt by the indiscretion of the individual is the mate. The reason there is hurt is the broken bond of trust. Anyone can tell you once trust is broken or destroyed, the relationship is pretty much severed. Whether the two people reconcile, once the person is caught cheating in the physical sense or through emotional disconnection, the relationship never returns to the way it was. The two people may reconcile and start over but the basic core of trust never returns to the person that was deceived by lies and other cover-ups. People say there are indicators that a relationship is over or has been severed by specific actions that occur. How to tell cheating has entered the relationship is instinctual. One or both people may not be ready to address the situation but instinct tells the truth. A few indicators are listed below.

The emotional bond between the individuals is broken. There was a time when simple complements meant the world to the two. Each found a reason to say something nice to the other. They no longer come in a broken relationship. The two people no longer have time for each other. They are no longer emotionally available for each other. Other things take precedence over the relationship. There is no time to meet each other for a quick snack or lunch. They find themselves meeting other people to fill in that extra few minutes or lunch time rejuvenation of the relationship. There is no intimate connection received from one or both of the parties in the relationship.

The communication that once flowed naturally no longer exists. There was a time in the relationship when the body movement signaled to the other person the intentions of the mate. The special look or gleam in the eye meant something only the two understood. In a broken relationship, the two people hardly look at the other. They no longer see the subtle body communication that only the two of them once understood.

Sometimes depression which is an illness, creeps in and wedges a split between the two people. The danger with depression is it can slowly and permanently destroy a relationship. One party may be willing to help the other for a time but depression is worst than a human whose come into the relationship. Often a person battling depression appears to be well but psychologically, there is turmoil going on inside the individual that rational behavior and thinking are not available to them. The other party in the relationship may become discouraged and seek someone who can meet their own personal needs.

When couples fall in love with each other, they seldom think about the worthiness of one to the other. Over time one of the parties may feel they are not equal to the other. They may feel they are out of their class with the other person. They may feel overwhelmed that they can not live up to the expectations of the more affluent person in the relationship. The feeling of inadequacy creeps in and takes over the person's behavior. Ultimately, the other party has no understanding for the behavior of the other person. The more affluent mate may seek someone who is capable of meeting the needs their mate no longer wishes to fulfill.

Ego sometimes takes over the relationship. The person with the over confident ego may feel safe in the relationship and entertain their fantasy about being with another person. They may not fear losing their mate and proceed with their fantasy without fully thinking about the consequences of of their behavior.

A wake-up call may hit one of the parties. After getting over the trance of physical love one of the parties may have a wake up call that says physical attraction is not enough. There is nothing the two of them have in common once they leave the bed room. The party may become frustrated with the one sided relationship and seek someone that is more their equal in several areas of life such as intellect, interests and socialization.

When a person is in a relationship that does not fulfills them, the void won't go away. They are like water in a container. They are looking for their balance in life. They can not find it in the relationship they are currently committed. They seek out others who may be able to fulfill the emptiness they may be feeling.

The relationship which has all of the features mentioned above can be damaged just because the other party wants to experiment. They want to see if anyone can give to them what they already have. Can another person make them feel the same as the person they now have in their life. These are the ones who often find themselves regretting the moment they threw away a relationship that was there for them and no one else. Even if they were to get back together, they would no longer have the full trust and love they once possessed.