Wedding Issues And Finances

The bride and groom are advised to decide early in their wedding plans how family issues will be dealt with. The next important decision they are advised to make is to decide if financial help will be accepted from any of their family members. And they must make up their minds that no matter what may surface at the wedding or wedding reception - it will not ruin their special day.

The bride and groom also bring history into the marriage. History is the "stuff" in life that make life uncomfortable. Family does not like talking about history or you might say family issues. Unfortunately, there are some family members who thrive on keeping the family issues stirred up. Especially when most family members will be in attendance. This hub will discuss a few of the areas of discomfort the new couple may face during their time of celebration.

THE EX-SPOUSE OF A PARENT ISSUE

The parent or parents of the bride or groom may no longer be a couple. One or both may have remarried. Or one of them is now involved with another person.

A problem arises when the hard feelings between the parents are not fully resolved or not fully closed. With this knowledge comes the problem of seating the parents. The seating issue could arise with regards to the wedding or the seating at the reception.

It would be ideal if the child of the disputing parents could gain their corporation and promise to be on their best behavior. This is not an impossible request but not likely to happen.

Both parents deserve to be seated on the front row of the chapel. Each parent deserves a place at the front of the reception venue. How will that happen? A bit of creative thinking is called for. When possible, keep the two as far a part as it is physically possible.

They can both be seated on the front seat but on opposite side ends of the chapel seats. Have a neutral person sit between them. It should be preferably someone the two parents respect or fear.

If they are willing to work with the bride and groom, the two parents may be separated by the a neutral person sitting in the seat next to the aisles on both sides of the church aisles.

If you have a wedding planner, make your concerns and wishes known to the wedding planner. The wedding planner will help you figure out the best possible seating arrangement for the wedding and reception.

Children have a parent who for some reasons was not there for them during their childhood. The child invites the birth parent to the wedding and reception. There is also a parent in the child's life who filled the place of the absent parent. That individual was there for all the life experiences and developments of the child. The question that arise, who will walk the bride down the aisles? Will it be the birth parent or will it be the parent that was available to the bride as she grew up?

Most likely the bride wants to do the right thing. At the same time, she does not want to hurt the feelings of either parent. A decision must be made. From a realistic point of view, the bride is advised to select the parent whose proven himself to be a responsible individual. The emotional obligations must be placed on the side for a few minutes.The question the bride must answer is, whats important to me? Why do I want this individual to walk me down the aisles? Once the selection is made, inform both parties immediately. This is a difficult thing to do. But it is important to let the two parents know as soon as possible.

If the bride wishes, she may offer the other parent an opportunity to participate in another segment of the wedding. She is not obligated to do anything she feels uncomfortable doing. Except she must notify the two parents which one will walk her down the aisles.

Most people acquire security at their wedding if alcohol is served. But there are circumstances in which security is used to help keep feuding family members in line. The bride and groom may ask for assistance from security to make sure certain people do not enter the venue. Security will also make sure the feuding people do not disturb the atmosphere of the wedding/reception. Security may be given permission to escort the trouble makers off the premises.